The thread: Taught confidently, and wrong
What an orbital is
Not a region the electron occupies, not a path it follows, and for any atom but hydrogen not an exact anything. An orbital is a one-electron wavefunction, and almost every difficulty in this subject comes from forgetting that.
Where the atoms goVSEPR, computed
The tetrahedral angle is not 109.5 degrees because a textbook says so. It is arccos(−1/3), and it falls out of minimising the repulsion of four points on a sphere without ever being written down.
Beyond the octetHypervalency without d orbitals
Sulfur hexafluoride is not d²sp³ hybridised. The d orbitals are far too high in energy to contribute meaningfully, the bonding is three-centre four-electron, and the textbook account has been known to be wrong for fifty years.
What is taught wronglyHybridisation does not explain
Methane's photoelectron spectrum has two bands, not one. Four equivalent sp³ bonding orbitals cannot produce that, and the resolution is that hybridisation was never a claim about what a measurement would find.
What symmetry decidesSymmetry forbids a dipole
Whether a molecule can have a dipole moment follows from its point group alone. The usual argument — adding up bond vectors — gets the right answer for easy cases by a route that does not generalise.
Beyond the octetDelocalisation
Benzene does not alternate between two structures. It has one structure, and the two Kekulé forms are basis functions in a description of it — which is a different and much less exciting claim than the one usually made.
What is taught wronglyOrbitals are not where the electron is
A many-electron atom has no exact orbitals at all. The orbital picture is a basis for an approximation — an extremely good one — and treating it as a description of reality is the source of most of the confusion in this subject.
Where the atoms goWhy water is bent
The standard answer is lone pair repulsion, it predicts the right direction, and it cannot predict the magnitude. A better rule can, and the heavier hydrides show where both accounts run out.
What symmetry decidesChirality is a symmetry statement
A molecule is chiral when its group contains no improper operation at all. The four-different-groups rule is a useful special case that misses molecules with no stereocentre and wrongly condemns some that have several.
What is taught wronglyThe dipole is not a sum of bonds
Adding bond dipoles as vectors gets the easy cases right and rests on a quantity with several incompatible definitions. The symmetry argument is exact, needs no electronegativities, and says when the answer must be zero.
OrbitalsWhere the electron is
The wavefunction is largest at the nucleus, the electron is most likely to be found a bohr out, and the ninety-per-cent contour is at 2.66. Three numbers, all correct, all answering different questions.
Bonding modelsMolecular orbital and valence bond
Two frameworks, taught as rivals, describing the same molecules. One starts from delocalised orbitals and localises; the other starts from localised bonds and delocalises. Pushed far enough they meet.