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VSEPR, computed
The tetrahedral angle is not 109.5 degrees because a textbook says so. It is arccos(−1/3), and it falls out of minimising the repulsion of four points on a sphere without ever being written down.
Bonding modelsOverlap decides
Two orbitals interact in proportion to how much they overlap, and the sign of the overlap decides which of the two combinations is the lower in energy. It is one integral, and almost everything about bonding follows from it.
What symmetry decidesPoint groups from coordinates
A molecule's symmetry is not a label to be looked up. It is decidable from the atom positions by searching for the operations that permute them, and the search either finds an operation or it does not.
OrbitalsSay what it encloses
An orbital picture is a contour at a level somebody chose, and almost no source says which. Two textbooks can draw the same orbital at visibly different sizes with the same caption, and both be printed in good faith.
Where the atoms goFive sites are not alike
Every other common arrangement has one or two distinct angles. Five has three, because two of its positions are on an axis and three are round an equator — and a molecule built that way does something about it.
Bonding modelsExactly zero
Where symmetry forbids an interaction the overlap is not small. It is zero — and computing it and finding arithmetic noise is a different kind of statement from computing it and finding a small number.
OrbitalsNodes
An orbital with quantum numbers n and l has exactly n−l−1 radial nodes and l angular ones. That is a count, it is exact, and it is the fastest way to catch a drawing that is wrong.
Where the atoms goWhy water is bent
The standard answer is lone pair repulsion, it predicts the right direction, and it cannot predict the magnitude. A better rule can, and the heavier hydrides show where both accounts run out.
Bonding modelsHybrids are a basis
An sp³ hybrid set is an orthogonal matrix applied to the atomic orbitals. Rotating a basis changes no observable, so asking whether the electrons are really in hybrids is asking which coordinate system nature prefers.
What is taught wronglyThe dipole is not a sum of bonds
Adding bond dipoles as vectors gets the easy cases right and rests on a quantity with several incompatible definitions. The symmetry argument is exact, needs no electronegativities, and says when the answer must be zero.
OrbitalsWhere the electron is
The wavefunction is largest at the nucleus, the electron is most likely to be found a bohr out, and the ninety-per-cent contour is at 2.66. Three numbers, all correct, all answering different questions.