Bonding models
Overlap decides
Two orbitals interact in proportion to how much they overlap, and the sign of the overlap decides which of the two combinations is the lower in energy. It is one integral, and almost everything about bonding follows from it.
Exactly zero
Where symmetry forbids an interaction the overlap is not small. It is zero — and computing it and finding arithmetic noise is a different kind of statement from computing it and finding a small number.
Hybrids are a basis
An sp³ hybrid set is an orthogonal matrix applied to the atomic orbitals. Rotating a basis changes no observable, so asking whether the electrons are really in hybrids is asking which coordinate system nature prefers.
Molecular orbital and valence bond
Two frameworks, taught as rivals, describing the same molecules. One starts from delocalised orbitals and localises; the other starts from localised bonds and delocalises. Pushed far enough they meet.